THE LUV RESET
A Heart-Centered Guide to Reclaiming Yourself and Creating Healthy Love
You built the career. You became the woman everyone depends on. This book is for the part of your life that hasn't followed the same blueprint: love. It shows you the pattern underneath, and gives you practical steps to change it.
Now on Amazon in paperback and Kindle. Your local bookstore can also order it for you with ISBN 9798982524119.
“Your cracks are not meant to be hidden. They are meant to be honored and filled with gold.”
The golden heart on the cover is inspired by kintsugi, the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold. Your heartbreaks, endings and grief don't have to be erased. They can become the most beautiful part of who you are.
If you've ever wondered why…
There is nothing in you that needs fixing. There is a pattern, and patterns can change.
What you'll learn
- Recognize and break lifelong relationship patterns
- Understand your attachment style and nervous system
- Heal from heartbreak without hardening your heart
- Communicate with confidence and authenticity
- Set healthy boundaries without guilt
- Date with intention instead of fear
- Deepen trust and intimacy in an existing relationship
- Create relationships from wholeness, not longing
Choose your edition
Read it on your phone tonight, keep the paperback by your bed, and do the exercises in the workbook.
- Delivered instantly to your Kindle or the free Kindle app
- Read on any phone, tablet or e-reader
- Exercises and reflection tools in every chapter
- Your local bookstore can order it for you
- Large, printable exercises for every chapter, step by step (35 pages)
- Included free with every level of the course
Four parts. One reset.
The book follows the same four movements as THE LUV RESET programs, so you can read it on its own or alongside the course.
Healing
Unpack the old story, understand your attachment style, and name your triggers.
Clarity
Define what you truly want, honor your needs, and set standards without guilt.
Action
Date with intention, say what you mean, and move through early relationships with confidence.
Expansion
Build resilience, stay aligned when it gets hard, and widen your circle.
The 4-Part Reader Reset
Reading THE LUV RESET? Insight is where change begins. Real change happens when what you learn becomes how you live. This free companion series helps you turn each part of the book into small, steady habits, so the reset becomes part of who you are, not just something you read.
- A reflection question for each part: Healing, Clarity, Action and Expansion
- One small practice each week to turn what you read into a habit you live
- Delivered to your inbox over four weeks, at your own pace
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In their words
“The LUV Reset gave me the clarity and confidence to stop settling, communicate what I truly wanted, and create healthier boundaries in every area of my life.”
“Sara helped me learn how to communicate my needs clearly and confidently without abandoning myself.”
“I learned that my heart could hold both the grief and the possibility of loving again.”
I have lived this work, not only taught it.
I have sat in the anxious wait for a text that did not come. I have called off a wedding when I finally understood what I could not build a life on. For a long time I carried shame that was never mine to carry. People asked how I could ever trust again. I could have shut off dating completely. But I did not.
Instead, I did the slow, unglamorous work of healing. I stood in my own secure attachment long enough that, the day after I finally arrived there, the right person asked me to marry him. I wrote much of this book in a season of grief, in the months after my mother passed. She had become one of my closest friends, and she taught me that the people we love are not problems to fix but souls to grow beside. I am not writing to you from above any of this. I am writing to you from the other side of it, with my hand reaching back.
With love, Sara
Sara Spencer
Sara is an executive leadership coach and the creator of The LUV Reset, a program for high-achieving women who are ready to rewrite their patterns in love and relationship.
For more than a decade she has worked with leaders and founders, and she kept noticing the same thing: capable women who brought clarity and self-trust to their careers struggled to bring it into their relationships. The LUV Reset draws on neuroscience, attachment theory, Positive Intelligence and emotional intelligence.
“A woman should never have to become smaller to be successful or to be loved.”
About the book
What is THE LUV RESET about?
THE LUV RESET: A Heart-Centered Guide to Reclaiming Yourself and Creating Healthy Love is a book by Sara Spencer about why relationship patterns repeat and how to change them. It covers attachment styles, the nervous system, healing from heartbreak, healthy boundaries, communication and dating with intention, with exercises in every chapter.
Who is THE LUV RESET for?
It is written for women, especially high-achieving women, who have built a successful life and want love that feels just as healthy and fulfilling. It helps whether you are single, dating or in a relationship you want to deepen.
Who is the author?
Sara Spencer is an executive leadership and relationship coach with an MBA and the ICF Professional Certified Coach (PCC) credential. She has coached since 2010 and created THE LUV RESET programs.
What formats are available?
THE LUV RESET is available as a Kindle e-book ($9.99) and a paperback ($29.99) on Amazon. The companion workbook is a $12 PDF download on luvreset.com.
Is there a workbook?
Yes. THE LUV RESET Workbook has large, printable exercises for every chapter, step by step, plus extra tools, in 35 pages. It is included free with every level of THE LUV RESET course.
Does the book explain attachment styles?
Yes. It explains secure, anxious, avoidant and anxious-avoidant (disorganized) attachment. You can also take the free attachment quiz at luvreset.com/quiz. It is an educational self-reflection tool, not a clinical diagnosis.
What comes after the book?
Readers can join the free 4-Part Reader Reset email series. For more support, THE LUV RESET programs run for four months: a self-paced course, a group coaching course and VIP coaching.
Turn insight into action, together
The book gives you the insight. THE LUV RESET programs help you put it into practice until it becomes part of who you are, with four months of support and a community of women doing this work alongside you.
Invite Sara to speak
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